Coaching

You’re in one place and you want to get to somewhere else.  Somewhere bigger, brighter, somewhere more successful, maybe somewhere quieter, or maybe just somewhere different. Ultimately, somewhere that feels more like you.  But it’s not happening.  You’re struggling.  The things that got you here don’t seem to be getting you there.

The good news: you’re not broken. 

The challenging news: you have a blind spot the size of yourself. 

That’s where coaching comes in.

What coaching clients say

  • Software Engineer, Google

    “Buddy was extremely thoughtful. inquisitive, and pragmatic in his approach. I felt seen, heard, and valued.”

  • Curriculum Manager, Google

    “Buddy’s coaching has really helped me evolve in my thinking space, feeling space, and being space. From skills gained from coaching, I have tools that allow me to think more clearly through my meetings that provoke anxiety, I can better assess my feelings about why the anxiety is there, and have a rational internal dialogue with myself that allows me to be more present in a room. I can actively set expectations for myself that allow me to thrive, rather than hide behind a facade of fake me. Thank you Buddy for guiding me through some personal challenges that were holding me back.”

  • Senior Account Executive, Google

    “I started working with Buddy as a means of finding a new job and working with him changed how I think about my career.”

  • Software Engineer, Google

    “I went to Buddy totally stuck with my career and unsure of what to do or what I liked. In just eight sessions, I uncovered so much about myself. Buddy listened, prompted, and pushed me in our sessions and as a result I feel way more confident in my career. Thanks Buddy!”

Getting better at being yourself

Think of coaching like a driver's education course.  You don’t take it because you’re a terrible driver - you take it because you’re developing a new skill.  In coaching, you're driving the car and I'm sitting in the passenger's seat.  I'm there to help you get to where you're going and help you to anticipate and overcome challenges along the way.  But you're the one behind the wheel.  As a coach, I ask questions that invite self-discovery to help you clarify your goals, cultivate your self-awareness, anticipate and prepare for challenges, and unlock your potential.  

I take a question-based approach that helps you to tap into your own creativity, resourcefulness, and wholeness to achieve sustainable change  

We'll work together to identify the thoughts, sensations, skills, and behaviors that pave the road between where you are and where you want to be.  We’ll work together to anticipate detours and potholes and could slow down your progress.

Coaching takes a developmental approach to adult learning by working toward aspirational goals.  This means that we focus on developing you as a whole person.   We examine your skills, capacity, and awareness - especially where those pillars meet your potential.  Together we examine where you are in relation to your aspirational goals and build an alliance to help you to get there.  

We work together to sharpen the skills that you have, develop the skills that you need, and shed the stories you have about yourself that no longer serve you

This is different than a transactional approach to adult learning.  Transactional goals are point solutions in a single instance of a challenge. Developmental goals develop your capacity around that challenge as a whole person. For example, a transactional approach to presentations might be, “I want to prepare for an upcoming meeting,” whereas a developmental approach might sound like, “I’d like to sharpen my skill and presence in front of stakeholders.” A transactional approach to wellbeing might be, “I need help taking more breaks during the day,” and the developmental approach might sound like, “I’d like to better understand my relationship with work and make that relationship work for me rather than against me.”

Because developmental goals are naturally more expansive, achieving them requires time, exploration, and discovery.  Ultimately, that time, exploration, and discovery cultivate a deeper understanding of the hurdles to continued success and support more sustainable and lasting life change.

Making whole-person change

You’re never just one thing. You’re always your whole self who puts on different hats, different identities over the course of your day, week, and life. Parent, C-suite executive, friend, weekend warrior, gardener, hobbyist, chef, leader, teacher, advisor, child. Coaching takes a whole-person approach because you are a whole person. The way you do anything is very likely the way you do everything.

You aren’t broken and you don’t need fixing

I’m not here to fix you because you aren’t broken. You are the most powerful tool you have to sculpt the life you want because you know yourself, your drives, your values, and your desires better than anyone else. As a coach, I help you to see your beliefs, actions, and intents more clearly and help you to be the best that you can be.

I look forward to working with you,
Buddy